#amberturd

That is an actual hash tag doing the rounds on Twitter right now. It of course refers to Amber Heard and her dubious decision to leave, ahem, human fecal matter in Johnny Depps bed. You heard that right; she quite literally deposited one of her very own turds as a gift for the guy. Now I've heard that sometimes lovers sprinkle rose petals or leave small tokens of appreciation for their loved one, but this is a new take for me. She actually blamed a small dog when confronted by a bemused house maid. I confess to being tempted to google search the difference between human and canine poops but self control, for once, cautioned otherwise. without wanting to belabour this trial, to describe it as a shit show would appear to have not only a literal but also a figurative sense two it. These are two deeply flawed people who, for whatever reason, ignited each others most unpleasant traits. Nobody emerges the winner from this and the reputational harm to both parties is immeasurable. Of the two I expect Depp to come out the better. He presents as a frail and enigmatic charachter. Fame combined with a challenging upbringing has clearly morphed him into a bit of a lost soul. As for Amber, I am not sure how to asses her. There appears to be a quite tangible conflict raging within. She is an abuser, and she clearly knows how to manipulate and play to the crowd. If I'm being honest it is the false victimhood that is the most unsavoury aspect to me. She was the primary predator but presented to the world as the afflicted victim of Depps impulsive traits. As you know I loathe that victimhood is now something many aspire to in todays world. There's actually a thing known as the victim heirarchy that often gets mentioned, and it basically works thus; take an older white man like me. We are at the very bottom of the victim heirarchy due to our skin colour and privilage. Up through the heirarchy we find women, people of colour, minority groups. So if you are, for example, a black trans muslim female then you've struck gold. You are the ultimate victim material, and your currency is sky high. Am I allowed to die a little inside at the thought of this ridiculous concept? Can I gently suggest that claiming victimhood is a frankly awful way of gaining social credibility? Victims come in all shapes and forms, and there will be times in all our lives when we've had a raw deal. Might I suggest that whilst we will sometimes find ourselves the victim, living in a perpetual state of victimhood is a horrible and corrosive idea. Anyways, back to this insane trial. Amber Heard is likely never to work again in showbiz after this is done even if the case goes in her favour. I hope she can find a way to make something of her life, and more importantly address some of her less favourable traits. As for Depp I predict a renaissance, although whether this is deserved is not something I am clear about. As I check in on this trial I see a relationship so far removed from my own that I am left perplexed. Why seek to harm those we purport to love? What end does that achieve? Could a winner ever emerge? The older I get the less I understand the world. I was kinda hoping it would be the other way around